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.Now what would have happened to that woman we had somehowgotten that part to stop doing that, but without changing anything else?She wouldn't have had any way to motivate That's why wehave the ecological check.The ecological check is a way of being sure162that the new behavior fits with all the other parts of a person.Up to stepsix we have essentially created a communication system between theperson's consciousness and their unconscious part that runs thepattern of behavior they are trying to change.And we have succeededin finding more effective alternative behaviors in that area.I don'tknow, of course, when finished that, whether this is going to bebeneficial for them as a total person.Let me give you another example of this.IVe seen mousy littlepeople who went to training and becameaggressive that their husband or wife left them and none of their friendswill talk to them anymore.They go around yelling at people and beingextremely assertive, so abrasive that they no longer have friends.That'ssort of a polarity flip, or a swing of the pendulum.One way to makesure that doesn't happen is to have some device like the ecologicalcheck.When you have completed communication and created alternativenew behaviors for the part that originally ran the problem behavior,you ask for all other parts to consider the repercussions of these newpatterns of behavior."Is there any other part of me that has anyobjection to the new choices in my behavior?" If another part objects, itwill typically use a distinctive signal.It may be in the same butit will be distinctive as far as body part.If suddenly there's tension inthe shoulders, you say "Good, I have a limited conscious mind.Wouldyou increase the tension in my shoulders if it means there is anand decrease it if it means If there is an objection,that's a delightful outcome.That means there is another part, anotherresource, that's active in your behalf in making this change.are atstep two again, and you recycle.One of the things that I think distinguishes a really exquisitecommunicator from one who is not, is to be precise about your use oflanguage: use language in a way that gets you what you want.Peoplewho are sloppy with language get sloppy responses.Virginia Satir isprecise about her use of langauge, and Milton Erickson is even moreprecise.If you are precise about the way you phrase questions, you willget precise kinds of information back.For example, somebody heresaid "Go inside and ask if the part of you responsible for this behavioris willing to change?" And they got a "No" response.It makes perfectsense! They didn't offer it any new choices.They didn't say "Are youwilling to communicate?" They said "Are you willing to change?"Another person said "Will you, the part of me that is responsible for163this pattern of behavior, accept the choices generated by mycreativity?" And the answer was "No." And properly so.Yourcreativity doesn't know a thing about your behavior in this area.Thepart that's got to make a selection is the part that is responsible for yourbehavior.It's the one that knows about that.Man: What if the unconscious creative part refuses to give anychoices?It never happens if you are respectful of it.If you as a therapist aredisrespectful of people's creativity and their unconscious, it will simplycease communicating with you.Woman: My partner and I found that our conscious minds weremost unaccepting of change.I totally agree with that.That's very true of therapists, especially ifthe choices were left unconscious.It's not necessarily true of othergroups in the population.And it figures, because therapists have verynosy conscious minds.Almost every modern humanistic psychotheo-I know implies that it is necessary to be conscious in order to makechanges.That's absurd.Woman: I'm confused about awareness and consciousness.Gestalt therapy talks about the importance of awareness,When Fritz Peris said "Lose your mind and come to your senses,"and to have awareness, I think he was talking about experience.I thinkhe suspected that you could have sensory perception withoutintervening consciousness.He wrote about what he referred to as theof experience," in which he said that talking to yourself wasbeing as far removed from experience as you could be.He said thatmaking visual images was a little bit closer to having experience.Andhe said having feelings was being as close as you could get to havingexperience, and that the "DMZ" is very different than behaving andacting in the real world.I think what he was alluding to is that you can have experiencewithout reflexive consciousness, and he called that "being in the hereand We call it "uptime." It's the strategy we've used to organizeour perceptions and responses in this workshop with you.In uptime,you don't talk to yourself, you don't have pictures and you don't havefeelings.You simply access sensory experience and respond to itdirectly.Gestalt therapy has an implicit rule that accessing cues are bad,because you must be avoiding.If you look away, you are avoiding.And when you are looking away you are in internal experience, which164we call Fritz wanted everybody to be in uptime.However,he was inside telling that it was better to be in uptime! He was avery creative person and I think that's what he meant, but it's reallyhard to know.Woman: You said we'd see when reframing doesn't work.certainly did as I walked around the room! You will try it and itwon't work.However that's not a comment on the method.That's acomment about not being creative enough in the application of it, andnot having enough sensory experience to accept all the cues that arethere.If you take its "not of a comment about howdumb and stupid and inadequate you a comment about what'sthere you to learn and begin to explore, then therapy will become areal opportunity to expand yourself, instead of an opportunity forcriticism.This is one of the things discovered teaching hypnosis.I think it'sone of the main reasons that hypnosis has not proliferated in thissociety.As a hypnotist you put somebody into a trance and presentthem with some kind of a challenge such as "You will be unable to openyour Most people are unwilling to put themselves to that kind oftest.People say this to me all the time in hypnosis training seminars:"What happens if I give them the suggestion and they don't carry itout?" And I say "You give them another If they get exactlywhat they intended, they think they must'have failed, instead of takingthat as an opportunity for responding creatively.There's a really huge trap there.If you decide before you begin acommunication what will constitute a "valid" response, then theprobability that get it is reduced severely.If, however, you makea maneuver, some intervention, and then simply come to your sensesand notice what response you get, realize that all responses areThere's no particularly good or bad response.Any responseis a good response when it's utilized, and it's the next step in the processof change.The only way you can fail is by quitting, and deciding youare not willing to spend any more time with it.Of course you can justcontinue to do the same thing over and over again, which meanshave the same failure for a longer period of time!There was a research project that I think you all are entitled to knowabout.Out of a group of people, one third of them went into therapy,one third of them were put on a waiting list, and one third of them wereshown movies of therapy.The people on the waiting list had the samerate of improvement! That is a comment about that research project,165and that's a comment about.That finding was presented to me asif it were a statement about the world
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